You can get it if you really want ???

“If you give your 100 % everything’s gonna work out and you are going to get anything you want.”

A bunch of BS. Everybody who’s lived on this planet for a certain period of time knows it’s not the case. You can bring your A game and still not get the job. Squeeze in 6 massive workouts a week into your schedule and yet not get the body shape you desire. You can fight for the relationship which will turn out later on to be doomed to failure regardless your attempts. And we’re afraid of such possible, because we know that sometimes our best isn’t enough to get that particular goal.

The trick is not to let the fear overrule your world. Because as we realize we have no guarantees we start to panic. There is no constant and it makes us terrified of the future.

Three things:

• Fear. Fear of failure. Of not being good enough. Of criticism. Of embarrassment and humiliation. Fear that if we give our absolute best and then we fail, it means we’re just not enough. One of the greatest fears most of us share: I’m not enough.

• Trust yourself enough to know that it will not break you. That whether you win or fail, you’ll be able to get up, move on, hopefully try again. It seems so simple and obvious and yet in the back of our head we sometimes think that we’ll lack perseverance to keep pushing despite failure.

• Choose Danielle Laporte’s concept of “Done f**ing deal” :D When you decide in your head that the project will be done and it’s only the matter of time, you’ll stop panicking that you have no control over the result whatsoever. Let’s be clear: it’s not about controlling the universe. It’s about not worrying about problems that haven’t happened yet. Cross the bridge when you come to it.

One more thing. I absolutely love Will Smith but I don’t think we shouldn’t have a backup plan. He claims that we ought to have a plan A and focus on it without any distractions. The problem is, we can never control the universe. There are simply too many factors out of our control to say “I will do it, no question about that.” Very often it’s not our decision to make. Don’t put all the eggs into one basket.

Don’t let your passion, your relationship, your family be the only element of your life. Because if that element stops working, the entire system shuts down. If you go through a heartbreak, you need to have something to focus on. When your family doesn’t give you support you can go to your girlfriend/boyfriend/best friend. We cannot identify only with one thing. That’s the issue many people who get fired struggle with. They put the equal sign between themselves and their job. So if they lose the job, they lose their identity and don’t feel needed anymore. Always have something or somebody to turn to when a different part of your life goes wrong.